Ignored, disregarded, overlooked??

    • August 5, 2022 at 8:18 pm

      I am wheelchair-bound, thanks to 15 years of CIDP. When I’m someplace alone, I seldom run into this problem. Whenever I am with others, especially anyone younger than me, they (the people working at whatever establishment I’m at) want to talk to the individuals accompanying me. They don’t want to talk to me and will pay no attention to me. I seem to be viewed as so disabled they automatically believe I can’t think and talk for myself.

      It is SOOO frustrating and usually happens when I have to deal with much younger people at a restaurant. When I go to dinner with my wife (who is not disabled) they only want to talk with her. I interrupt and have to tell them where I want to be seated and my name, because if I don’t, they will put wheelchair people into very uncomfortable areas, like under super-cold AC vents where others won’t sit. I always ask for a booth where I can transfer into it from my wheelchair and leave my wheelchair in the aisle next to me. Sometimes that requires not being in a middle booth. I hate being seated at a table in my wheelchair and forced to eat at a distance from the table.

      Once I get their attention, it usually takes several minutes of discussion for them to realize that I am not some elderly, brain-dead, handicapped person.

      Anybody else run into this?