Inserting a trache and hospital transfer

Can anyone tell me anything about the trache after being taken off the ventilator? Currently the doctor is still trying to wein my father off of the ventilator and they say that he is progressing. Anyways, he looks alot better, now I’m just concerned about the trache. We don’t know too much about it and the doctor had asked my dad if he wanted to have a trache inserted? He said yes but I don’t even think he understands what it is. he just knows or thinks that he will get off of the ventilator if they put a trache on him. Me or my sister didn’t get to the hospital till this afternoon after the doctor had already left. Anyways, from the information that my sister gathered from my dad’s girlfriend’s family was that the doctor said he had talked to my dad about the trache and he wants to do it so they will probably do it soon and the way that they talked was that it will be permenant. Anyways, if anyone has any resourceful information and can explain it to me i would appreciate it. These doctors don’t really explain things right to us and this isn’t the first time either. Well also before my father had went into cardiac arrest we the whole family had talked about having him transferred to Parkland Hospital which is one of the best hospitals in Dallas because we don’t feel that my dad was getting the proper care and attention and we as the family had several complaints about the way things were being handled. He is at the Veterans Hospital right now and in ICU and that department is taking very good care of him and I have no complaints but when he was on the floor it was like the nurses forgot about him. I will just tell a few things of what has happened cause I could write a story. He didn’t have a bowel movement for 9 days and I had to basically be rude to the doctor and tell him to do something about it then he ordered an enima and 45 min later he went to the bathroom. Well that should have happened after the first few days. Then the nurses let him sit in his bowel for up to 30min stating that they were short staffed. My dad had a call button on his cheek and called one of the nurses about his leg massagers hurting too bad if she could maybe take them off for about 5 mins and she was very rude to him, grabbed his call button and threw it (there was another patient in the same room with him that witnessed it). They wouldn’t put him in his cardiac chair stating they weren’t licensed to do it which when I talked to the Chief of Staff said that wasn’t true and we gave him the name of 2 nurses that said that. My dad would tell us not to say anything because he had to stay there and when we left he would have to deal with it. There’s more but I’m going to stop right there. Anyways, my dad doesn’t have any money and is a veteran so everything is paid for at the VA cause he’s a veteran and i think that is his main concern about going anywhere else. My question is should we tell my dad that we want him transferred and let him make a decision? We don’t want to stress him but don’t know what to do? Please tell me anything that will help us make a decision.