I found happiness
AnonymousAugust 1, 2009 at 1:29 am
I stopped by to visit the GBS section of our site and ran across a thread that has direct application everywhere,.
What have you done to make yourself happy?
What has someone done for you to make you happy?
What have you done to make someone else happy?
Please post your stories. It will be a positive inspiration. How long can we keep this thread on the first page?
I rode in a golf cart today and helped someone with their golf game. I used to be a Golf Pro in my functioning days. The fellow needed some help and asked if I would ride with him and offer suggestions after the round. I did, and he hit some good shots on the range afterwards. He was very happy. I am happy that I could put my knowledge to some good. (No, I didn’t charge him. Free help.) It felt good.
Share your stories !!
AnonymousAugust 1, 2009 at 1:45 am
I am so glad that it made you feel go. Are you allowed to make a little bit of money on the side while you are on SS disability. Maybe you can give some lessons to some people. Maybe kids starting out or working there way up. This way you could do it only when your body would allow you to do it and you would have extra money.
I am not sure what I could say for this thread but I have a man I am totally in love with ( My soul mate ) and hopefully things will move forward with us. (He has a lot of nerve pain due to back problems and it has taken over his life but he is working on trying to get his problems fixed.)
AnonymousAugust 1, 2009 at 9:31 am
A great thread! This morning I had enough energy to do some gardening. And it’s made everyone in our area happy as well: it was supposed to rain today, but since I did the gardening, it probably won’t rain.:D
And now for a well-earned rest: baseball bloopers for an hour and then rugby — South Africa v. New Zealand. A great way to spend a Saturday afternoon.
AnonymousAugust 1, 2009 at 10:37 am
I love that you brought this up. This is something that I think about ,too. I, like you, have something that used to stoke my fire. I was a social worker in a medical setting for about 12 years and then I had a baby and that baby has cidp. I know a lot about insurances and things and love to give people suggestions on this site as I know about those things but I have been helped so much by all of you guys because I am new to cidp. Since I was a little girl I wanted to help people and then I grew up and became a social worker. So much for 7 years of college helping me with a little girl with cidp. I couldn’t begin to work right now as I have a child that needs my constant attention. It is hard not to give and I am envious that you were able to give you yourself for someone else. GOOD FOR YOU. Life is too short not to have moments like yours recently.
AnonymousAugust 1, 2009 at 11:59 am
Great thread. We need this.
I worked (I use the term lightly) outside all day yesterday with my daughters and grand kids. I refuse to cancel our 33rd annual camp out at our house with old college friends and family.
So my adult children and grand kids have stepped up to the cause. They are helping get things ready so we can all still enjoy a week-end of good friends and great food.
As far as doing something for someone else that made us all feel good…
After 8 months of physical therapy I wrote a long thank-you and farewell to the PT department about the amazing work the girls did for me and other patients. They were then recognized at a staff meeting.
Keep the good thoughts coming…
AnonymousAugust 2, 2009 at 1:27 am
Yesterday I called our public library to have a few books put aside. I used to be a Reference Librarian there back in 1988 (worked as a teacher before & after that.) The same women all work there as before & with local government aid cuts, they are swamped; I know that as they have been at City Council meetings begging for help. I told Carol that if the union would allow it, I could come in & help out at the main desk in an as-needed basis. If the union doesn’t allow it, there are indoor tennis courts here that also need volunteers to sit & answer the phone & schedule court times. But that would hurt a lot, to see everyone else playing tennis when I no longer can. I would just like to feel useful again!
AnonymousAugust 3, 2009 at 11:42 pm
Helping others always makes me happy and helps me still feel useful. I have wonderful friends all over the United States (hi roomie) and I feel blessed. At night when I say my prayers I usually finish up with a smile on my face because I try to recall everyone and think of something special about each of them. Sometimes it’s a funny thought, (like Liz’s face after our roller coaster ride), sometimes it’s a sweet thought, (like holding my new baby nephew) but regardless I always feel blessed.
AnonymousAugust 5, 2009 at 11:24 pm
Several years back I encouraged my secretary (this was in another city) to take some college courses. I gave her an extra 30 minutes at lunch so she could complete her homework (she had small children at home). I also helped her with some of her courses. She eventually applied for a training program and I helped her get into it. (My absolute favorite part of being a manager is encouraging and seeing people realize their potential). Today I came home to a beautiful flower arrangement with a thank you note from her. She received another promotion and thanked me for the encouragement and assistance she feels I gave her a few years back. She’s received 4 promotions in the past several years and wanted to share her excitement about the newest one with me. It made me feel so good!!!!! And the flowers smell so good! The only thing I think would smell better would Dick S’s sourdough bread baking!!!!:p
AnonymousAugust 6, 2009 at 9:27 am
[quote=Linda Martin]Several years back I encouraged my secretary (this was in another city) to take some college courses. I gave her an extra 30 minutes at lunch so she could complete her homework (she had small children at home). I also helped her with some of her courses. She eventually applied for a training program and I helped her get into it. (My absolute favorite part of being a manager is encouraging and seeing people realize their potential). Today I came home to a beautiful flower arrangement with a thank you note from her. She received another promotion and thanked me for the encouragement and assistance she feels I gave her a few years back. She’s received 4 promotions in the past several years and wanted to share her excitement about the newest one with me. It made me feel so good!!!!! And the flowers smell so good! The only thing I think would smell better would Dick S’s sourdough bread baking!!!!:p[/quote]
Kudos to you, Linda. I’m 65 years of age and I’ve worked for many businesses, large and small, in various positions, including management. Everything I know about management, I learned from IBM and from Amway, two companies that had the same philosophy. If you work hard to insure the success of those who work for you and if you credit those people with their being responsible for your accomplishments, your own success will happen without any further effort on your part.
AnonymousAugust 9, 2009 at 1:47 am
Rod/selahsmom – Thank you both for your kind words. Rod, you are absolutely correct in your statements! I don’t do our mission, the folks on my team are the ones performing mission work and they all have their individual talents and skills which, collectively, gets the job done! I view them as my true customer … it’s my job to make certain they have what they need to perform and to provide opportunities for advancement.
That said … Dick S, to answer your questions:
What have you done to make yourself happy?
I decided to finally get my home office together. I’m going tomorrow with a friend to pick up my new large corner desk! Lots of work space!! Since I am allowed to telework on an as needed basis as a reasonable accomodation for CIDP, I really want a work area that fosters creativity!
What has someone done for you to make you happy?
My special friend took me dancing tonight – he understands that I can’t stay for very long, but I did get to West Coast Swing, 2-step, polka and waltz! It was a treat! (when I finish this post I will get into my hot tub and enjoy the night air to reduce the backlash I’ll feel tomorrow!)
What have you done to make someone else happy?
Another friend is semi-retired and needs some work so I hired him to work around my house 3 days a week as my “handy man”. He’s going to start in my soon to be new home office area!!:p I really have enough around here to keep him busy for several months … and now that I’ve maxed my out of pocket medical expenses for the year, I finally have a little more disposable income! What wonderful timing for everyone!!!!
AnonymousAugust 10, 2009 at 4:53 pm
[QUOTE=Dick S]I baked 3 loaves of sourdough bread yesterday, I gave one to a scout who is working on his Eagle project (He always liked my sourdough bread), and another loaf to a young man who helped me get some yardwork done.
I ate the third loaf myself. yum..yum..[/QUOTE]
Yes, indeed yum-yum! 😀
I did send you an e-mail, Rick. If you would deign give out your recipe for the sourdough bread … and for the starter … oh my, would I ever be delighted!
Had starter that lasted a couple years. Even made sourdough on campsite. Recipe probably got eliminated in a move. Have never found my recipe for the starter.
I’m relatively recently officially diagnosed with CIDP … couple years. It’s not easy getting my family to realize that mom/mor-mor isn’t able to do everything she used to be able to do — at least not as easily nor as quickly.
But what the heck … I’ll bake sourdough and get even fatter … and love it! I do “play in the dirt” at my daughter’s house. And I do what is called Swedish Weave. Gotta’ keep on keeping on, y’know?
August 10, 2009 at 5:09 pm
It’s nice to no that there are still people in the world who WANT to make others happy.
AnonymousAugust 11, 2009 at 9:10 am
Sourdough bread (i hope it fits)
1 package Yeast
½ cup Warm Water
2 tbsp. Sugar
2 ½ tbsp. plain flour
2 cup Warm Water
Step 1 feed Step 2
¾ cup sugar ½ cup sugar
3 tbsp Instant Potato Flakes 1tbsp salt
1 cup warm water ½ cup canola oil
1 cup Sourdough Starter
1 ½ cup of Water
6 cup Bread Flour
Dissolve 1 package yeast in ½ cup warm water. Add sugar, flour and 2 cup warm water. Put in glass quart jar or bowl (I use a mason jar) Cover with cloth, (I use cheesecloth) for 5 days. Then refrigerate for 5 days, then feed and use.
After starter has been refrigerated 3-5 days take it out to feed. Combine step 1 (Feed) ingredients and add mixture to starter. Let starter plus mixture stand all day (8-12 hours). Mixture should be bubbly and “active” Take 1 cup for bread and return remainder to fridge. If you are not making bread, toss the 1 cup. If you keep too much starter (more than 1 ½ c) your starter will deflate. Sometimes you will need to cut back down to a little more than a cup, just stir and pour off. If you forget to feed more than 10 days, feed, let it bubble good, and toss the cup, then bake the next time. It needs to recharge. The starter grows at room temp, and rests in the fridge. It needs the fridge time.
Mix 6 cups bread flour, salt, and sugar in a plastic or wooden bowl.(I observe the “metal avoidance” rule). Add the oil, starter, and water and make a stiff batter. I use a wooden spoon, never metal. Put a couple of tbsp of oil in another bowl, coating sides, etc. Plop in the bread mix, roll around, and cover with oil. Cover and put in a warm dark place. Let rise all day.
After first rise, punch down and divide into thirds. Knead on floured surface and shape into loaves. Grease 3 bread pans, cover with wax paper And let it rise again.
After second rise, bake at 350. Oven times vary, when bread darkens on the top, and begins to separate from the bread pan, you are done. Remove, let cool a few minutes, and brush with melted butter. Cool on a wire rack. I brush with butter until my melted stick is used up.
Yum…Yum… eat ‘em up.
AnonymousAugust 17, 2009 at 11:55 am
I have a good friend that has fallen on hard times. Her husband had an addiction to oxycontin and started stealing from his job, friends, and family to support his habit. He ended up getting arrested and has been in jail for almost a year now. She’s a single Mom and really struggling financially.
Her daughter is 3 yrs old. I have given her alot of my step daughters barbie stuff and barbie airplane, etc.
Yesterday I bought Connor a new desk/hutch for his room so we had to move stuff around and get rid of more. I gave her a little tykes picnic table, a kitchen thing, a cash register, bean bag and three barbie cars and a few other toys.
Her little girls eyes just light up and my friend is so very greatful !
It makes me feel good to help them.
AnonymousAugust 23, 2009 at 8:22 am
Stacy – I know your friend really appreciates the happiness you are bringing to her children by sharing from your children. YEAH!!!!! You are a kind and thoughtful person!
Dick S – this is a most positive thread, so like you, I want to see how we can keep this going so folks can still see the good things in their lives even if managing CIDP still has to be our main focus ….
So – an update. My new handyman (friend that needs some work) is doing an excellent job on those things I can’t do. Really is a win-win solution as he needs the work and I want the work done! He is really happy to be getting a little extra income while helping me. And my new home office looks GREAT! Much better than I had imagined … so now onward to my dining room! I told him I could keep him in work a couple of days/week until the end of this year. I figure I need to make my home as convenient as possible while I still can work and pay for it!
One of my employees is serving in Afganistan and we (my team and I) are making certain to send her care packages monthly. I got the sweetest email from her stating she loved the pedicure pkg we sent and she is grateful to know we care … and some other sweet things that made me feel good. She also included a picture of herself with her camel named “Thirsty” 😀 – must have a good sense of humor to be in her surroundings!
I always feel better about helping someone than doing for myself! However, I have to get used to accepting help so someone else can also feel good! So I accepted a wonderful gift from one of the other managers at work … she knew I was basically out of sick leave and donated 40 hours of her leave to me!!! That is a HUGE Blessing!!!!!!!
Every day, I have numerous things in which I can be thankful. Thank you, Dick S, for starting this thread and reminding us to name some of those thankful things!!! I hope and pray you are doing well ….
AnonymousSeptember 1, 2009 at 7:50 am
This month is birthday time for myself and two very close friends. Both of these friends have health issues also and so understand my challenges and I understand theirs … I want to do something that will make everyone feel good, so I am treating all of us to a spa day this coming Saturday! We will get massages from the local massage therapy school, then on for pedicures and Mimosas!!!
This illness is tough with daily challenges but I agree with Dick S – we need to keep this thread on the first page because no matter how tough, I still can find something that makes me grateful!!!!!!:rolleyes:
Dick S – I hope others will post again to this thread as this is one that needs to remain on the 1st page as an attitude adjustment/inspiration when we hit the rough times … it’s good to remember we can still make others happy and feel good in the process!:D
AnonymousSeptember 1, 2009 at 9:52 pm
Happiness does not have to be life changing or momentous, although it can be. Most times it is something that puts a smile on your face, or on somebody else’s.
There is an apartment complex behind our house. Our property is on higher ground and the apartments are “down the hill”. Their parking lot is between our property line and the buildings themselves. A little runoff creek is on our side of their parking lot, then 15 feet of upslope, and then a 6 foot fence I had to build to keep the dogs in and for safety and privacy. They promised to keep up their side of the fence line, but they let it over grow. Poison Ivy, other vines, pokeweed, morning glory, ragweed, you get the picture. recently a groundhog has made his home there, a possum was on top of the fence, and I am not sure about rats. I hope there is a black snake there.
Anyway, I needed to clear the area next to the fence, for my dogs safety as much as anything. So I did. I took the weedeater and a sling and beat it down. It was 8 or 9 feet high in places. I cleared out a 4 foot path beside my fence and around the groundhog hole. I hope he goes somewhere else.
But, during the process of my work I found several things that undoubtedly belonged to the kids at the complex. I found a baseball, a soccer ball, a kickball, and a little girl’s skateboard. I tossed all of the stuff across the little creek beside the parking lot. They picked it all up by the next morning. I heard the familiar “kick” and “thud” of the kids kicking their ball against the side of the building. They were having fun. I felt good.
AnonymousSeptember 1, 2009 at 10:26 pm
[B][SIZE=”2″][COLOR=”Sienna”][FONT=”Georgia”]I’m reminded of something the great Beverly Sills said … great great opera star … a child, deaf and slightly DD … and then a husband dying a lingering death. Someone asked how she could seem so happy. She said happiness is a fleeting thing; it comes and goes. What she strives for is to face life cheerfully … to practice cheerfulness.
She was right. Facing life with a cheerful attitude does wonders.[/FONT][/COLOR][/SIZE][/B]
AnonymousSeptember 4, 2009 at 1:09 am
Did you do the bread ??
I also got to give a little today. I cut my neibor’s grass. She is 80 couple, and although she is quite capable and has a son who lives close, I was cutting my grass and just stayed on the riding mower a little longer.
It was worth it all when she came home and had a big smile on her face !!!
AnonymousSeptember 4, 2009 at 10:09 am
Did you do the bread ??
I also got to give a little today. I cut my neibor’s grass. She is 80 couple, and although she is quite capable and has a son who lives close, I was cutting my grass and just stayed on the riding mower a little longer. It was worth it all when she came home and had a big smile on her face !!![/QUOTE]
[FONT=”Georgia”][SIZE=”2″][COLOR=”Sienna”][B]Your timing is superb, Dick!! 😀 I did the starter and was really questioning it … seemed so very thin and watery. Adding to it helped, but still wasn’t exactly the way I remembered my long held long used starter. Gave it a try anyway and despite your advice to “let it rise all day”, I did the usual double in size. Would’ve been up all night otherwise! 🙂
Three loaves. Rather like baguettes. I do think I’ll make just 2 loaves next time. Tastes good. A bit sweet. The longer the starter “works”, the more sour it’ll get.
I, of course, sliced off a few ( note that “few” … as in 2 [U]thick[/U] ) taste tests, y’know. With lots of butter, y’know. There goes the diet! 😮
Glad you were able to help your neighbor. I love to play in the dirt at my daughter’s house. I’m in an apartment now and miss my yard. So I maintain hers, which helps her as she’s single and working too many hours each week. However, I wish she had a riding mower. Even with the electric mower, it’s becoming difficult. But … if things have leveled off for me now, maybe it’ll work out after all. Fingers crossed.[/B][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT]
AnonymousSeptember 6, 2009 at 8:30 am
The first starter is watery. As time passes, the addition of weekly “stuff” the starter will get to where you remember it. It might be good to feed the starter a couple of times before baking the next round. You can feed 5 days apart if you want to. Remember to keep a little more than a cup of starter for continuing operations, toss the rest.
As an alternative, you can add 1/2 cup of whole wheat flour(reduce the bread flour to 5 1/2 cups) and make “whole wheat” sourdough. It is firmer and seems to keep longer.
I love bread !!
AnonymousSeptember 7, 2009 at 11:39 am
[QUOTE=Dick S]I love bread !![/QUOTE]
[FONT=”Georgia”][COLOR=”Sienna”]And so do I 😀
I’ve just done a new starter using my Alaskan Sourdough Starter recipe. I knew it’d be around somewhere … just had to dig for it. Will follow your bread recipe, though, as it comes out nice and light … and [U]very[/U] tasty! 🙂
Was just over to my daughter’s … “playing in the dirt” … and, as usual, I knicked my shin somehow. Have no idea, of course. Feel nothing in that area. [/COLOR][/FONT][/SIZE][/B]
AnonymousSeptember 18, 2009 at 2:32 am
Since starting this thread I have been trying to look for ways to put happiness into my life. I had been sticking myself inside and withdrawing from society.
I started mentoring at the local middle school this week. Not too much, just one day a week, about three hours worth. I have the time, and these kids need the support. The kids are identified as “at risk” for dropping out. 6th, 7th and 8th graders. Many have problems at home, some have ADD or ADHD, most just need to know that someone cares.
In the one class we were doing a “get to know you” around the room. And the question was “What makes you mad, and why”
When it was her turn, one girl said “My Cystic Fibrosis makes me mad. It won’t go away.”
I just about cried.
When it was my turn, I said “My CIDP makes me mad. It keeps me from walking good and won’t ever go away.” The girl looked at me with understanding eyes and smiled.
I don’t know if I can help her, I hope I can. I got my CIDP as an adult, it must be so tough for kids.
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