Dating can be tough at times

June 24, 2006 at 2:25 pm

I was almost fully recovered from GBS in Dec/04, and my girlfriend at the time was somewhat supportive, though we had only been dating a few months before I got sick and were somewhat serious already. We soon broke up and the girl I have been dating is closer to my age (I’m 33) and has a master’s in counseling. We never met until my life was pretty much back to normal, and even though I’ve often told her what I’ve been through, she doesn’t really seem to “get it”. It’s as if she thinks I once had a nasty case of the flu or something. She jokingly picks at me when I try to lift something that I could have easily moved before GBS, and calls me an “old man” when I just want to go home and sleep after a hard day at work. We enjoy each other’s company and have a rather normal (increasingly serious) relationship, but I seem to have slowly changed since GBS, and have a different outlook on life that she just cannot relate to. Life is just more serious for me now, and I don’t want to waste it doing things that I don’t really want to do. I’ve learned to take nothing for granted. Maybe I’m just being unfair expecting her to understand something she can’t without experiencing it. I guess I’m saying that the toughest part of dating is probably finding someone that understands what we’ve been through with GBS.