Not a Very Enjoyable Birthday, without Debbie !

    • Anonymous
      September 19, 2007 at 11:58 am

      [FONT=Book Antiqua][SIZE=3][COLOR=blue]Well this hasn’t been a very good birthday for me, I woke up with backache & cts pain this morning. Then I looked at Debbie’s picture & I just got totally upset, I have cried one time after another today. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT]
      [FONT=Book Antiqua][SIZE=3][COLOR=blue][/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT]
      [FONT=Book Antiqua][SIZE=3][COLOR=blue]I miss Debbie I have tried to stay in a half decent mood today, but it has just turned out to be a very bad day for me. I don’t even feel like I want to think about my birthday, I just can’t keep from thinking about Debbie. I’m just totally miserable without her.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT]

    • Anonymous
      September 19, 2007 at 12:36 pm

      I’m so sorry you are having a bad day. You have every right to have a bad day on your birthday and many reasons, not the least of which is losing Debbie. It’s a hard thing to keep living when half your soul wants to fly to heaven; it’s hard to learn to laugh again and find an interest in life when you lose someone who meant so much to you. I am not trying to sound trite when I say that you should consider getting a pet. If not for my dogs I would have died of a broken heart at 25 when my fiance was killed in a car crash but I could not leave them. Dogs are very sensitive to your moods and having two dogs getting upset because I was getting upset forced me to control my depression. My current pack of mutts greets me each morning with a rousing chorus of singing and barking. They are always in a good mood and when I get depressed they can usually pull me out of it with some silly antic.

      It’s just a thought, but there might be a lonely old mutt out there needing some company too. 🙂


    • Anonymous
      September 19, 2007 at 12:51 pm


      I am so sorry, I can’t even imagine how hard this day must be for you. Just know that your GBS family is here for you when you need us. Please take care of yourself.


    • Anonymous
      September 19, 2007 at 1:55 pm

      Dear Terry,

      I’m just so sorry you’re having a tough time, its understandable not only because its the first birthday without her, but because you both loved each other so much. Will you be spending any time with the grandchildren?

    • Anonymous
      September 19, 2007 at 2:00 pm

      Special days often are the hardest.
      Let the tears out. Thinking of you.

    • Anonymous
      September 19, 2007 at 3:30 pm


      I’m sorry that today makes you so very sad. There doesn’t seem to be much
      to celebrate after the loss of a loved one. I agree with Julie, a dog or a cat
      just might be something to help cope with the loss of your wife. Animals
      often sense sadness in their owners, know when their owners need some
      love and can be a good friend. They depend on you for love and comfort,
      plus food.

      I do hope you can get out today and see some of your family or friends,
      because it is your day and I’m sure that they care so much for you, that
      they would want to see you.

      Take care

      Miami Girl

    • Anonymous
      September 19, 2007 at 4:43 pm

      It is a sad day without Debbie . . . She was the love of your life.

      Today, I am celebrating you and your life. Your were such a loving helpmate for Debbie with her struggles. You are a very special person and I am so glad for the opportunity to know you thru this family. For this “1st birthday” I will pray for comfort for you.

    • Anonymous
      September 19, 2007 at 6:29 pm

      Hello Terry,
      I knew from our calendar that it was your birthday, but I think we all knew that it would be a very sad day for you and we respected that. You were in my thoughts. Enough time has not passed yet so your grief is still raw. It can get easier, but only if you allow yourself to work towards coping rather then against it.

      We are here whenever you need us. We all have shoulders to offer.
      From my heart,

    • Anonymous
      September 19, 2007 at 6:36 pm

      Terry I am sorry you are having a rough day. I hope you call your children to have them help you through this rough time.

      Anyway Happy Birthday to you and I hope you feel better



    • Anonymous
      September 19, 2007 at 7:20 pm

      [B]Terry, so sorry you’re not enjoying your birthday. But I will still say to you

      [SIZE=”6″]Happy Birthday Terry My Friend.[/SIZE][/B]

    • Anonymous
      September 19, 2007 at 10:27 pm

      [FONT=Book Antiqua][SIZE=3]Thanks Everyone for the Birthday Wishes, it just turned out to be a bad day for me. I did go & visit my daughter Mary Ann tonight after work. Here is her photo with my grand daughters Brittany & Jordan. Mary Ann is 28 & she has threw a lot of people off on her age, Brittany had a lot of problems at Debbie’s service she cried & cried. They had to take her to the nursery, she is still having a lot of problems dealing with the Debbie’s death. But I just wanted to share this photo.[/SIZE][/FONT]

    • Anonymous
      September 20, 2007 at 12:18 am

      Terry, I’m sending you a Whole Bunch of Hugs!!! Cry as often as you need. Please know You have All Our Love and Prayers!
      Your Daughter and Grand Daughters are sooo Beautiful and I can’t believe Mary Ann is 28! Wow she has the young looks gene from Debbie! You have a Wonderful Family, Please give All of Them Hugs for Me. Please Take Care of Yourself Terry, Your Grandbabes need your strength and wisdom. Hugs!