should I or not

No they do not have children yet. Its just that he insists that there is
NO NEED for me to go down there because it will get worse and then get
better. so why waste the time and money (his words)
I want to honor his wishes (and hers so he says) however my instinct is to go
to her. I think I may go down anyways and let what happens regarding
not listening to their wishes go to the devil. I know it will get worse before
better, and I cannot stand not to be there for her. My gut says to go and so I am going period. I know the turmoil and feelings for both are irritable, and I
too think it would help spell him off for a while.
thank you