It’s okay to ‘whine’

March 6, 2008 at 8:21 am

[FONT=”Comic Sans MS”][SIZE=”2″]Beth,
It’s okay to daydream, zone out, wool gather, whatever you want to call it, it’s all part of the healing process. You are just looking inward, maybe seeking answers or simply being still and peaceful. Think how folks who are trying to learn how to meditate would envy you!;)
One thing i know about Type A’s, being one myself is that it’s so hard to let go of control over anything including one’s own body. Your mind is screaming ‘How can this be? I used to be able to do this or that, now I can’t remember whether I fed the cat, let alone how to fill out this form! and so on’
In the film ‘Whatever Happened to Baby Jane’ Joan Crawford’s character is saying something about “If I weren’t in this wheelchair I’d…..”, Bettye Davis comes back with “Yeah but ya are Blanche, you are” And that, in a not so profound nutshell is what we have to realize.
It’s time to let go and let other’s ‘do’ for us.
When I told my ex, who lives on the other side of the Continent, that I could barely concentrate long enough to read all the forms and documents that needed to be dealt with, [I]forget[/I] filling them out! can’t hold onto a pen let alone write! Bless him he stepped in and has been taking care of all that ever since
Then there’s my neighbor who brought me a wheelchair and walker when i needed it, checks on me all the time and even emptied the slop bucket i was forced to use once or twice 😮 Now that’s friendship!
My point here is that even in those matters it is so hard to let go and let others take care of the things we cannot do for ourselves [I]at this time[/I].
This site has helped me heal with good advice and laughter, it’s like having a whole room full of Best Friends who listen without judging, are there for you all the time, and will leave you alone when you need to be. Bonus: everyone here has been through the same thing so nobody will ever accuse you of whining, would your Best Friend? No way!
So go ahead and talk, question, whatever you need to do and if you need a laugh go look on the forum ‘The Lighter Side’ and follow the thread “The Tavern’ I guarantee you’ll be rolling on the floor laughing after the first few pages, and laughter is a good thing, no?
I wish you well Beth, here’s a great big hug[SIZE=”6″][COLOR=”DarkOrange”] ( )[/COLOR][/SIZE]