How strong you are…

December 7, 2007 at 1:01 am

As an “old-timer” I remember Marge’s posts, they were very witty & she was such an intelligent woman. I also felt I knew Frank, through reading your posts. My husband & I are about the same age, & I honestly don’t know if I could go on if something happened to him. Oh, I know I would, for the sake of my 3 children & now my grandson, but it would be ever so hard. I know this time of year must be so hard for you, but you always seem so strong.

I don’t know that I have ever had a “best friend” like you are talking about. I had sooo many friends when I got sick, but never that one best friend. My one sister, who is 6 years older than I am & has lived apart from me since I was in the 7th grade, is trying to become that person at age 60, but I think she is just lonely (having been divored since she was 39.) She was always so cocky about never wanting to be tied down again to one man, but now that she has suffered some health issues (a broken ankle that won’t heal & trouble with one eye) she is ever so down & calling me all of the time. She is retiring at the end of this school year & I am so afraid that she will expect this kind of friendship from me. Not to be bitter, but when I was at my worst & she would fly up for a week to see me, she would spend all of her time with a guy she went to high school with. I was so hurt those 3 summers…

Sorry I got off the subject, I am just thinking that you were so lucky to have had a realtionship like you had with Marge, & also with Frank. Many have never had neither. The old cliche comes to mind, “Better to have lost & loved, than never loved at all.” As I grow older there seems to be more truth to that, although completely loving & trusting someone always has its downside. I hope you will get through this very rough time of year OK, will you be with your sons at least?
Blessings, Pam