The tears started coming to my eyes reading your post and I know that we feel grief and a broken heart at the loss of our “other” family member. I wish a word other then “”pet” could be used to describe them. My two dogs CODY and STANLEY were my babies, not my pets. I had to choose to put both of them to sleep because they would not have recovered from their illnesses and I could not let them suffer. I made that decision for them and not for me. I think that many of us here understand what you feel. Grief is stress and stress can do alot to us.